How to Personalise Your Wedding Ceremony: Tips from a Devon Wedding Celebrant
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Your wedding day is going to be one of the most memorable moments of your life, and your ceremony should reflect your unique love story. As a professional wedding celebrant based in Devon, I help couples create personalised wedding ceremonies that feel authentic, meaningful, and unforgettable.
If you’re planning your big day, here are my top tips for a ceremony that’s as unique as your love story (and will even keep Aunt Margaret on her toes).
1. Start with Your Love Story
Every couple has a story worth telling. It doesn’t have to start with “Once upon a time” (unless you want it to -then please, go full Disney).
Share anecdotes that capture your journey together.
Include the little quirks - like how you first argued over who left the fridge open or who ate the last slice of pizza.
Work with your celebrant to weave your story naturally into the ceremony, so it doesn’t feel like a rambling “Our Life Story Part 47..
2. Write Your Own Vows
Writing your own vows is one of the most personal touches you can add.
Think about promises that matter most to you and your partner.
Keep them heartfelt and honest - humour can be a great addition if it reflects your style.
Practice reading them aloud to ensure they flow naturally during the ceremony.
Practice reading them aloud so you don’t start giggling uncontrollably during the ceremony.
Top tip: If you’re nervous about public speaking, your celebrant (hopefully me!) can help you craft and rehearse your vows.
3. Include Special Readings or Poems
Adding readings, poems, or song lyrics, or even songs can make your ceremony even more memorable.
Pick something meaningful, from literature, your favourite TV show, or even that weird poem Uncle Bob wrote in 1982. At my own wedding, we read out one of my Gran's love-letters to my Grandad after they got engaged....not many dry eyes in the room I can promise you!
Invite friends or family to read-it makes it personal , gives them a special role, and gives them a reason to wear their fancy shoes! Perhaps you could let them choose!
Ensure any selections complement the tone and theme of your ceremony.
4. Add Rituals or Traditions
I love a good dose of symbolism, or a nod to your traditions. Why not include something meaningful to you both personally in your ceremony?
Think handfasting, sand ceremonies, or unity candles. Or something more out-there like a wine-unity ceremony. (We can even make one up if you like, because....no rules!)
Why not blend traditions from your heritage or family customs for added significance.
As your celebrant, I will make sure it all flows - without anyone accidentally setting off the fire alarm!
5. Personalise the Setting and Atmosphere
Your venue and décor can enhance your ceremony’s personal feel:
Consider a meaningful location, such as a local beach, or historic local venue (we have a lot to choose from in Devon!). Or perhaps in your nan's back garden!
Choose music that reflects your journey as a couple.
Add small personal touches - perhaps photos of loved ones who can't be there or the flowers your Grandmother had in her bouquet.
6. Work Closely with Your Celebrant
A professional wedding celebrant can help you:
Bring your vision to life! Whatever the vibe you're after, I am a happy chameleon and I will make it happen.
Structure the ceremony for flow and timing
Include personal touches that resonate with you as a couple and your guests.
Together, we can design a ceremony that feels intimate, heartfelt, and uniquely yours.
Final Thoughts
A personalised wedding ceremony isn’t just about following tradition - it’s about telling your story, celebrating your love, and creating memories that last a lifetime.
If you’re planning a wedding in Devon, Cornwall, or anywhere in the South West and beyond, and want a ceremony that truly reflects who you are, I’d love to help!
Contact me today to start planning your unique wedding ceremony.
